How to Tell Your Friend She’s Dating A Jerk
In Living on September 23, 2011 at 5:07 am
Everyone wants to see his or her friends happy. That’s why it’s unsettling to see a good friend in a bad-dating situation. Like it or not, all love isn’t healthy love. If he doesn’t make her happy, she shouldn’t be with him. The trouble is, you know that, but she doesn’t. How do you convince a friend that she deserves much better? Here are fives rules to follow when you’re ready to have a heart-to-heart.
Pick The Right Time
Talking crap about your friend’s guy every time his name comes up won’t make her break up with him any faster. In fact, it could have a reverse affect. She’ll start to think of you as a hater who isn’t on her side. The next time you really want to sit down and discuss how she’s feeling about her relationship she’ll be fed up and over it. We’re not saying pretend you’re cool with him (you don’t have to be fake), but you shouldn’t be negative all the time either. No one wants to be around a Debbie Downer-type. Careful or you could wind up losing a friend.
Be Prepared to Fail
Managing your expectations is key when you’re trying to help a friend out of an emotionally toxic situation. Just because you’re telling her the truth about her relationship doesn’t necessarily mean she’s going to listen, or understand. A person isn’t always ready to hear what’s best for them, even if the have asked you to give it to them straight. Remember your job is to support her; don’t make it too obvious that you’re disappointed or frustrated with her reaction. It could take quite a few heart-to-hearts for her to see light. Or, she may not ever come around. Don’t go into this expecting to be a hero. Just do your best to help your friend.