How To Avoid Toxic Friendships
In Living on August 30, 2011 at 12:51 pm
No friendship is perfect but sometimes you have to wonder why or how you’ve allowed certain friends to enter your life. Do you have that girlfriend that always has something negative to say? Is she not supportive of you? Becoming an enemy more than a friend? If so, you may need to reevaluate the relationship. Madame Noire
dishes on ways to avoid a toxic and unhealthy friendship.
Don’t Rationalize Bad Behavior
When we’re dealing with someone new, we’re constantly on the lookout for “hmmm” moments. By this I mean moments when our new friend or associate makes some type of backwards comment, perhaps in passing, that gives you pause. Just like in a romantic relationship, don’t ignore the red flags or even worse don’t play the dangerous game of making excuses for their shadiness. Your “hmmm” radar is rarely wrong. Ignoring those “hmmm” moments now will lead to frustration in the future.
Redirect the Conversation
We’re all prone to our moments of negativity and pessimism but no one wants to be surrounded by a Debbie Downer all the time. If you hang around these types for too long you’ll either waste precious time and energy attempting to make them happy-all to no avail- or you find yourself rowing right along with them in their sulking ship. Most people who focus on the negative don’t know this about themselves. If you recognize that deep down yourfriend
is a good person then you might be inclined in trying to sway their outlook by speaking positively around them, reminding them to look at the bright side.